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The first thing you need to know about how to get a girlfriend is that most women want something happen with you immediately. Sure, some girls like to take things slower than others, but most modern women want you to escalate to a phone number, date, kiss or sex very quickly. So, getting a girlfriend has never been easier than it is today.

Unlike women from the 1950s, today’s women don’t need to spend lots of time “getting to know” you. If you wait too long, another guy (who knowshow to get a girlfriend) will take her from you.

Modern women don’t expect you to court them for months like women did 60 or 70 years ago; these days most women are open to giving you their phone number, or even kissing or having sex with you the first time they meet you.

If you’ve been searching for information on how to get a girlfriend and wondering why getting a girlfriend seems so difficult, you are most-likely unaware of how the modern dating environment works. Relaxed attitudes to premarital sex makes it easy to get a girlfriend and start having sex immediately. For example: Imagine that you’re out shopping during the day and notice an attractive woman that you’d love to have as your girlfriend. If she is single and hoping to meet a potential boyfriend, she will be happy that you have approached and offered her the opportunity.

We have surveyed more than 6,000 women during the last 7 years and 73% say that men don’t approach women enough anymore. Women also complain that most modern men have become too wimpy and take too long to make something happen.

If you do approach a woman, but don’t follow through to a phone number or even ask her to join you for a coffee (or juice) right then and there, she will walk away feeling disappointed. Additionally, if you live in a big city you probably won’t ever run into her again. Ever notice how that happens? So, you need to get in the habit of making something happen right then and there. Get a phone number, get her to join you for a quick coffee or if you’ve met her in a bar get her phone number, kiss her or have sex with her that night. If you’re searching for information on how to get a girlfriend, you probably don’t give yourself much opportunity to meet women. The truth is, opportunities to get a girlfriend are always right in front of you. Except, out of fear or laziness, you just let the opportunity slip through your fingers. Don’t do that. Instead, take action by talking to women and giving yourself the opportunity to make a connection.

For example: Imagine you walk into a Starbucks to buy a coffee. After you place your order, you notice an attractive woman waiting for her coffee order to be made. Instead of hiding away from an opportunity to get a girlfriend out of fear or laziness, say something to her!

You: Hey…so, is this your first coffee for the day?
Her: (Whatever she says doesn’t matter. Yes or no – you can still reply in the same way).
You: This is my 10th coffee. I drink 20 cups a day.
Her: (She will laugh and will most likely know that you’re joking).
You: Nah, just kidding…this is my second cup. I think three is enough for one day. I’m ______ (say your name) by the way – what’s your name?

From there, continue the conversation and get her phone number. If you don’t know how to keep the conversation going and get her phone number, I will teach you. Watch this video, sign up and I will teach you how to get a girlfriend tomorrow. Have you ever noticed that some guys seem to be able to get a girlfriend easily, while others suffer for months or even years without so much as a kiss from a woman? Why do guys like you need to learn how to get a girlfriend, while others are enjoying sex with women right at this moment? It really isn’t your fault. The fact is, while most modern women are no longer shy to give out their phone number or kiss or have sex with a man they’ve just met, they still do make it difficult for guys to pick them up. They behave as though they aren’t interested, they challenge the guy to see if he feels uncomfortable and they tend to reject the guys who are too nice. Why is that?

How To Play Hard To Get with a Guy

Do you know why girls play hard to get? Perhaps, it’s because knowing how to play hard to get with a guy is by far the most effective way to make any guy desire you in no time. After all, it’s a secret that really works!

Knowing how to play hard to get with a guy is the difference between becoming desirable and being overlooked.

But most men do say it puts them off. So why do girls play hard to get anyways?

And are men really telling the truth? Does playing hard to get turn them off?

Playing hard to get

Guys may get frustrated when they have to put up with girls who play hard to get, but they too, would accept that they like it when girls play hard to get.

Well, at least most men would.

[Read: What men like in women more than anything else]

How to play hard to get with a guy

We’ve seen it happen several times, in movies, amongst friends and in several other places full of frenzied dating activities.

Women love playing hard to get, and they usually play hard to get even if they like the guy.

This is pretty much the “pre-courting” of the courting days in humans.

The attraction of playing hard to get

When most men were asked, they admitted that they love it when girls play hard to get.

Why do they like it? And how to learn to play hard to get, and make it work in your advantage? [Read: The right way to talk to a guy and make him like you]

Firstly, you should know that playing hard to get gives men something to fight for. After all, men just have the most competitive and egoistic craniums in the history of the world.

And don’t we all know how much men love a good challenge. When a man wants to woo a girl and sweep her off her feet, he’s doing this before any other fanciable man could sweep this girl away, amidst stiff competition.

Along with the happy feeling of wooing this woman, a man also gets an ego boost. It was him that she chose after all that playing hard to get, and not anyone else, so what does this make him in her eyes, an alpha male of sorts. He is the “almost-perfect-definition” of the male species in her eyes.

How to play hard to get and make it work

Most girls know how to play hard to get with a guy, but they don’t know all the rules. Playing hard to get is a big boost, but at times, it’s a big turn off for a guy when a girl keeps spurning him all the time.

If you think a guy is fanciable, and you’ve been keeping him on ice all this while, it’s time for you to give away a few signs to show that your freezing heart is finally starting to thaw.

The guy may be on a conquest to steal your heart, but there would be times when even he might feel like he’s fighting a losing battle when you overdo the game of playing hard to get. This is when that little smile or the fluttering eyelid and a hug or a cute public display of affection of sorts would give him a new source of renewed vigor.

[Read: How men really fall in love]

Some girls play hard to get with a guy all the time, while some girls are overly friendly and flip their lid for the first guy who makes a move at them. Based on scientific studies, it is seen that men are not put off by either of these women. But the one woman who can turn a guy on at all times is the woman who is “selectively playing hard to get”. [Read: How to seduce a man who isn't yours]

How to play hard to get selectively

The selectively playing hard to get girl is usually happier in a relationship for a longer time, and would hardly ever get dumped or two-timed.

Two subsequent studies supported this idea. The selectively playing hard to get woman is the one who is easy for “the guy” to get, but hard for all other men to get. She is happy to date this special guy, she talks sweet with other men, but she declines dates from all other men and never really oversteps her boundaries. This keeps the selective man who’s wooing her on a high. He respects her more, and each time he is with her, he realizes how lucky he is to have her around him. [Read: How to make a man fall in love with you]

So we can safely say that the optimal strategy would be to give the impression that you have many offers for dates with other guys, but you refuse them, while indicating that you are willing to date the one guy in your life, although it will take some effort on his part to persuade you to completely give yourself in.

If you think about it, this makes sense. It is a much enjoyed ego boost for the man to know that he is dating a woman who could be with countless other men. But at the same time, when you play hard to get with a guy, it keeps him on turbo-boost when it comes to impressing you because he’s still scared of losing you.

[Read: How to get a guy to ask you out]

Knowing how to play hard to get with a guy can be the difference between keeping a guy interested and losing him! Continue reading about the successful strategies of playing hard to get in how to make the chase game work for you.

For a long time, women have always been told to play hard to get.

And for just as long, men have known that women like to be chased.

But in recent years, most women have completely misunderstood the chase.

Many women wonder why they’re making a guy chase them even when they’re actually totally in love with the guy themselves.

Most women have been told that men like a chase. But then again, why do men like a chase?

To excel in the game of dating, you really need to understand the whys before you blindly follow something that’s been passed from one woman’s ear to another.

So why do men like a chase?

Now it’s clear from the title of this feature that men like a chase, but why is that?

There are a lot of reasons where a good chase can help you and we’ll get to all of that here.

But you have to keep this in your mind no matter what. If you don’t want to make a man chase you because you’re already madly in love with him, then skip the chase.

Do what your heart tells you, because I wouldn’t want you to lose a great boyfriend material because you made him run around in circles for far too long.

What I’m going to tell you here are the benefits of a chase, and how it can actually help you and better the prospective relationship. And the really good part, in this feature I’ll tell you how to make the chase work in your favor and make the guy fall so madly in love with you, it’ll hurt him to even let you go.

So are you ready for a real chase?

Men think they hate a chase, but they really don’t!

Ever heard men complaining that they hate the chase and they just can’t stand a woman who plays hard to get? Well, they probably don’t realize it themselves, but all guys love a good chase. Chasing a wonderful woman who knows how to make a guy chase her is every guy’s dream. And I’ll tell you how to be that special woman here.

Men like chasing women for two primary reasons, for their ego and to actually understand if they want the girl. But the real reason behind why a woman plays hard to get and makes the men chase her is entirely different.

Why men chase – Men like the chase for their ego

Men are competitive, they always have been. They know that a great girl gets all the attention in the world.

Every great guy wants to go out with a great girl. So when a lot of great guys try to woo her and date her, she obviously has a lot of options. The great girl then evaluates the odds and sees which guy likes her a lot more than the others, and also tests her compatibility at the same time. So what guys call a chase isn’t really a chase, it’s the girl’s way of weighing the odds and picking one who seems more determined and willing to prove his love for her.

So when a great guy finally emerges as a winner, he’d obviously know he’s better than all the other guys. Now that’s a huge boner in his ego, and he feels like he’s just won a big prize. But if you don’t have a lot of options in hand, don’t throw the poor fella around just because someone told you so! If a man sees competition, he automatically flips the ego chase switch on, so don’t try to force a chase for the wrong reasons.

[Read: How to increase your sex appeal]

Why men chase – It helps them realize how important the girl is

Men fall in love in stages. The first thing they do is make the girl fall in love with them before they even consider whether they should fall back in love with her. All they care at first is about getting the girl to like them. This is the tricky part of a man’s mind that you really need to understand. [Read: The seven stages of love for men]

If you’re too easy to get, he may wonder if he deserves someone better. But if you do end up kissing him on the first date or even having sex with him, just don’t worry about it. The chase only helps you evaluate a dating potential. If you’re certain that both of you like each other already, just take the plunge!

The intensity of the chase

You may try to make a man chase you around for a few weeks, but if he doesn’t really like you or think you’re to-die-for, he may just get bored and walk away halfway through the chase. And you’d look like an idiot when you turn around with a flirty smile and see that the guy’s long gone.

The intensity of a man’s chase depends on how madly in love he is with you. If you really do like a guy who’s pursuing you, then take it easy on him. But if you’re unsure if you like a guy back or wondering if he’s just trying to get into your pants, play hard to get and see if he sticks around.

Should women play hard to get?

In a general scenario, women should definitely play hard to get. It makes a guy value the relationship more and helps him understand your worth. And if he values the relationship, he’ll think less about cheating on you or walking out, and spend more time on pleasing you. [Read: The right way to meet the one]

How to make the chase work for you?

If you want to have a successful relationship with a dating potential, don’t commit to him, at least at the beginning. Don’t tell him that you’re falling for him or that you miss him. When he realizes that he’s made a deep impression on you, he’ll start taking it easy and call the shots instead of trying to woo you.

To give him a chase that he’ll enjoy, every now and then, give him a happy moment out of the blue that’ll give him a boost of renewed vigor to pursue you with more intensity. A happy text out of the blue or a kiss when he least expects it are great starters to let him know that you appreciate his wooing and are slowly starting to fall for him too.

Don’t pursue him back if he lets go of you after a while. Most guys assume that a chase is a game played by the book when it really isn’t. Once a guy knows the girl is interested in him and was only playing hard to get, he’ll start throwing his weight around her.

If a guy genuinely likes you and isn’t trying to get into your pants, he definitely wouldn’t be thinking of turning the tables of the chase just when he’s about to get the girl. [Read: Different ways to end a date]

The successful chase strategy for women

If a guy is really interested in dating you for who you are and not to win you as a prize to satiate his ego or to get into your pants, he will definitely try his best to win your heart. [Read: How to get to know someone on a date]

When you ignore a guy or treat him badly, it isn’t called a chase. It’s a stupid ploy that never works. Respect the man who pursues you and be nice to him. Thank him and appreciate what he does for you. He’ll like you even more.

The Super Kitty Chase

If you want to have a successful chase, go out with him and date him with all the excitement and enthusiasm you have in your heart. Let him even know that you’re happy to spend time with him.

Always remember to always stop one step short of what he wants. But give him a glimmer of hope that’s one step higher than the last time the both of you went out. Don’t get it? If you’ve clasped his hand on the first date, allow him to hold your palm on the second. If you’ve exchanged a little peck on the lips on the third date, share a bit more on the next date. It doesn’t matter if you’ve started with just a smile, every now and then, share just a bit more even if you’ve not been on a date with him just yet. It’ll let him know that the relationship is evolving slowly, and it’ll help him realize that you’re starting to like him a lot too. [Read: How to know if you are in love]

If you’re younger and still aren’t ready for kisses and nights in bed, take it slower. If you’ve hugged each other, allow him to hold your hand for a few seconds. If you’ve clasped hands for a few seconds, hold it a bit longer. If you’ve held hands, give him a small kiss on the cheek. But always remember to take it to the next little level only if he does something special for you.

This may not be your typical definition of a chase, but in fact, this is the only way to play the game of a chase between men and women. By taking it slowly, you’re ensuring that the guy you’re dating isn’t just trying to get into your pants. At the same time, by slowing down the progress, you’re slowly giving each of you a chance to completely fall in love with each other without rushing through the steps and letting sexual attraction and lust cloud your judgment.

Sex always has a way of complicating things, so unless you’ve ended up having sex on the first couple of dates, keep your mind clear of everything but love, sexual chemistry and the happiness you feel when it’s just the both of you.

[Read: Signs he's into you]

Why the Super Kitty Chase will always work in your favor

Several studies has shown that a relationship that has a longer courting time where two people like each other but haven’t taken the plunge into a romantic relationship yet has a better chance of lasting for a very long time.

By playing hard to get, and yet letting him feel the satisfaction of having progressed on every date that he’s planned for you, you’re ensuring that the attraction isn’t just sexual in nature, and you’re making him fall slowly in love with you instead of just looking for ways to impress you.

Don’t blindly play the chasing game and assume chasing a guy away works because someone said so. Understand why something works and think about it, because that’s the only way to really understand why we do what we do, especially when it comes to relationships where second chances are so difficult to come by.

[Read: Is he really the one for you?]

Try this chase the next time you’re dating a new guy. Both of you will really understand where the relationship is heading. And you’ll realize that it always works in your favor. So why do men like a chase? Well, now you know, don’t you?

How to Get a Girl to Have Sex With You In 10 Steps

Find yourself getting sexually attracted to a great girl? Use these ten steps on how to get a girl to have sex with you to arouse her and seduce her. 

Getting to have sex with a girl you desire is a dream come true.

You may want to date her or you may find her extremely sexually attractive.

Firstly, the nicest way to get to have sex with a girl is to date her and take things forward with that.

You’ll fall in love with a great girl and you’ll have fun in every step of the way.

But whether you’re dating a girl or sharing a sexually exciting friendship, making a move to have sex is tricky business. [Read: How to have sex with a friend]

You can’t really talk about it too soon.

Neither can you make a move to have sex with her unless she approves your moves with reciprocation.

How to get a girl to have sex with you

One of the biggest issues with getting a girl to have sex with you for the first time is the trepidation associated with it.

One wrong move and it could tear a big split in the relationship.

Use these ten steps to get a girl to have sex with you and you really should have no trouble arousing her or having sex with her. But if she does hesitate at any point, back away and apologize for rushing it. You may not have timed your moves to perfection. [Read: 6 ways to accidentally kiss a friend]

Get these ten moves right, and she’ll be more than happy to have sex with you!

#1 Let her see your great side. If you want to have sex with a girl, you definitely have to be good enough to get her attention. If she thinks you’re desirable and everything she wants in a great guy, half your work’s cut out for you already. [Read:10 things women want in a perfect man]

#2 Let her know you’re interested in her. Talk to her, spend time with her, and let her catch you staring at her discreetly now and then. Make her wonder if you’re interested in her without revealing too much.

If you ask her out without making her like you first, she’ll lose the excitement of the mysterious relationship. Make her wonder what’s on your mind and you’ll make her fall in love with you without even asking her out. [Read: How to make a girl like you without asking her out]

#3 Get out of the friend zone. Unless you’re dating her already, the friend zone is a scary place to be. Friends don’t have sex with each other and they avoid getting sexually attracted to each other. Be her friend, but don’t be just another friend who’s got no sexual interest in her. Make it clear that you find her attractive and sexy.

Tease her sexually, compliment her outfit with sexy remarks and talk dirty with her. Both of you may be friends, but let her feel the sexual tension when you’re around her. [Read: Tips to date a friend]

#4 Spend more time with her. If you want to have sex with a girl, the only time you can work your magic is by getting some alone time with her. You need to flirt sexually and make her feel comfortable to be with you. But you can’t do that when there are other friends around.

Behave normally when there are other friends with her, but the second they walk away, say something like, “whew… now I get to spend some alone time with this sexy girl…” or something else that makes it clear that you find her attractive in a more-than-just-friends kind of way.

#5 Go out with her. You don’t have to fix a date to take her out. Grab lunch together at work or help her run an errand now and then. By doing that, you’re already taking the place of her boyfriend in her mind. [Read: How to attract a girl who has a boyfriend]

But always remember to keep the sexual excitement on a high. Or she’d just look at you as a friend.

#6 Touch her. And excite her. The touch is a very powerful way to send the right signals across without seeming desperate. Look for ways to touch her arm or clasp her hand at the opportune moment. The more you touch her delicately and sensually, the more sexually turned on she’d get. [Read: Tips to touch a girl when you’re out with her]

#7 Invite her to your place. Invite her to your pad, or get invited back to her place. You’ve built the sexual tension already. She knows you’re not just a friend, and she definitely knows you’re attracted to her already. By getting comfortable in each other’s places, it’s taking you one step closer to her bedroom and into her pants. After all, if you’re going to get a girl to have sex with you soon, you need to make her feel comfortable with you in each other’s private spaces.

#8 Give her a few sneak peeks. So she thinks you’re a nice guy who’s attracted to her. But that’s really not enough. You need to arouse her and force her to take little glances at your sexy side.

Look away from her and stretch casually when you have a hard on inside your jeans. Let her catch a sneak peek of your obliques and your rather low trousers when you’re changing your shirt at your place. Always look away when you’re flaunting your body to her. It gives her enough time to admire you sexually without the fear of getting caught. These moves will involuntarily make her get sexually attracted to you and desire you.

#9 Watch a movie together. Go out on a date or stay back at home and watch a movie. A movie involves a few hours of quiet time where both of you sit really close to each other. This is where you can touch her ever so slightly with your arm or your foot. Do it the right way and be patient, the chemistry can be electrifying. If you want to seduce a girl, absentmindedly graze your arm against hers with the slightest of touches while sitting next to her. It’ll turn her on before you know it! [Read: The art of flirting by touch]

#10 Arouse her the right way. If you want to know how to get a girl to have sex with you, you really need to remember that all the focus is on sexually exciting her and arousing her into making out with you. Never seem pushy, instead play it safe and slow instead of going too fast.

These ten tips on how to get a girl to have sex with you can help you do more than just kiss the girl you like or touch her breasts. There’s just one thing left to do now, read how to arouse a girl and make her kiss you to know the finer details of the next delicate move.